You’ve probably heard the term ‘Life Coach’ thrown around before or you wouldn’t be here reading this. You’ve probably seen stuff on TV and in magazines, and ads on Facebook talking about Life Coaches and how fabulous they are and how they can help you transform your life and now you’re wondering what it’s all about.
So, what is this Life coaching stuff all about?
What’s in it for me?
We all place limits on ourselves. We all have limiting beliefs and patterns that hold us back, preventing us from fulfilling our true potential. Our true potential can be reached with the help of a life coach. Coaching can help a person reach their potential by helping them define their big why, and their goals in life.
Such goals can be, but are not limited to:
choosing or changing a career
general goal setting
health & fitness
time management skills
improving personal relationships.
Coaching takes place by focusing on a goal, and setting specific tasks to reach that goal in a realistic and achievable time frame. Coaches guide the client in the direction where they want to go in their professional or personal lives by looking at where they are now, figuring out where they want to be, and deciding on an action plan.
A coach is an accountability partner, checking in regularly with their client and guiding them in the right direction if they lose motivation.
To the average person, therapy and coaching might seem to be interchangeable, as they both involve a level of personal development. Some areas may overlap, however there are important differences. Coaching helps the individual take responsibility and ownership of their own lives by focusing on solutions, whereas therapy puts the onus on the Professional to help ‘fix’ a problem.
Coaching starts with the present, and looks to the future, while therapy looks at the past to help understand the patient’s issues. A coach does not deal with physical or psychological issues. In that case, they would refer their client to a therapist. Life coaches will not tell their clients what to do, but they will ask the right questions to guide them in the direction they want to go.
Personal training and life coaching are similar in approach. They are both results oriented and the coaches are both motivators and accountability partners. They both tailor programmes to the individual and set them up with the skills to be able to carry on independently between coaching sessions and hopefully, for life.
I believe coaching and counselling overlap in many ways but are different enough to be seen as independent fields. I feel that the main difference is the degree of responsibility the practitioner has. The responsibility is placed on the therapist to diagnose and then ‘cure’ or ‘fix’ a patient who may be majorly dysfunctional. With a coaching relationship however, the responsibility is with the client, who is healthy and functional enough to make their own decisions. The coach is merely their facilitator.
What I Will Do:
- I will help you realise your dreams and become your most authentic, powerful self.
- I will support you 100%
- I will be your cheerleader and your greatest fan along your path towards your goals
- Use everything at my disposal to help you focus on what is important to you and what is necessary for you to do to get the results you want.
- Be your (loving) butt-kicker when necessary.
What I will Not do:
- Do the work for you – I’m here to support, not carry you.
- ‘Fix you’ – you are not broken, you are perfect, you just want life to be better than it is. If you feel that you are ‘broken’ then it’s a counsellor or therapist you need to see first, before you see a life coach.
- Make you do anything you don’t want to do. Your life, your goals, your choice.
- Tell you what to do – I will guide you to make your own decisions.
- Betray your confidence, everything you say is confidential.